That’s me. Mom, Mommy, Mummy, Mama. Whichever name they chose to use, it all comes out the same. It is me. It is the best job I have ever had. It is the hardest job I have ever had. And it is the lowest paying job I have ever had.
Some days are really hard, some days are really easy. I can have a day where I get all of the housework done, a bunch of my own stuff and playing with the kids with no screaming or no back talking. Then there are the days that I feel like nothing is accomplished and I spend most of the day trying to negotiate pleasantries from the kids.
Right now, I feel the need to keep busy with other projects. Somehow having projects on the go, whether it is baking, knitting, sewing or photography, seems to help me feel like I am not lost in the midst of being a Mom. Because if I can be honest, just being a Mom and keeping the house is not totally me, I need more. I need to create, to feel like there is more to me than just all that.
I understand how some of my friends have felt the need to go back to work. And although I know I could do it, the work part that is, I know I couldn’t do it, the leaving the kids part. So for now, I stay home and do the best job I can at being a Mom. But to help me stay a little sane, I keep busy. Just so I don’t feel like I get totally lost in the Mom part of being a Mom, I need to keep a little of the Beach, in BeachMama.
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Of course you need to. It’s only natural. And it’s good for you. You’re so creative, it’s amazing.
The leaving the kids part is very, very tough. I can’t do it anymore. I would have never in a million years thought I could stay at home and just be Mom.. but obviously I now know that’s about 10 jobs rolled into one.
I do need more than just the status of mom, but right now, I am pretty busy just being one. Maybe as the boys get older, I will find more time to do things I want to do, but for now, I am pleased in just getting through the day.
I guess I am somewhat satisfied for now, or just too busy to notice I’m not. 🙂
Love your posts on both kids. I am finding my little one is more like me in “being busy.” He’s going to be a handful!
I totally understand what you are saying. I regularly use photography, cooking and gardening as my outlets. I think whatever helps you feel a little more yourself and a little more sane- only enhances your stay at home mom gig! 🙂
If I could stay home, I think I’d have to do the same thing. I’ll bet it makes you more rounded as a mom too.
I’m glad menu planning is working out! Now that I’ve done it fairly consistently since the first of the year, I feel a little lost the occasional weeks that I don’t. It makes a difference!
I think what you are doing is wonderful. I wish I could do it as well. I am glad that you are taking care of yourself and your children. You won’t regret this time you took to raise your kids.
I totally agree, I need more too which is why I work part time from home. Housework and laundry is just not that fulfilling whether it’s for our kiddos or not 😉
Sounds like you have found the perfect balance!
hey, have just caught up on your thoughts of J and Apple.
it amazes me how much our own childhood directly influences the decisions we make as mums/moms (lol) and the hopes and fears we have for our own babies.
one of the things i hope for mine is that they grow up “knowing who they area”, standing firm for what is good and reaching out to others.
i hope they feel very loved, always.
mwah X
knowing who they ARE
lol X